So, you want to see marriages healed. Are you praying for that? Are you praying specifically for certain couples? Do you know what to pray for each couple?
My bride has a great habit of asking, “How can we pray for you” when we are with others. Sometimes that leads to prayer right then, sometimes not, but either way it gives us some great guidance in praying for those people.
I have no doubt that prayer is a powerful tool in the fight for marriages. Aside from the obvious, praying for someone causes you to care for them more, and knowing you are praying for someone makes them feel like you care about them. Asking how to pray lets people know you are praying for them.
It is also a good idea to encourage husbands and wives to pray for each other. Not “God make him/her do what I want” prayers; prayers asking God to heal, bless, and guide. Additionally, encourage men and women to pray for themselves, to seek His guidance on being a better husband or wife, to see their own faults and selfishness, and love their spouse more deeply. Praying about your marriage can have powerful results!
Great tweet of the week:
When your marriage isn’t going good, punishing your spouse for it only makes things worst.@redeemmarriages
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Black and Married with Kids
The Three C’s – 3 Simple Rules for a Happy Marriage ◄ Great start on a good marriage.
3 Types of Weeds that Will Take Root and Harm Your Marriage ◄ I’m a sucker for a marriage/garden metaphor, and this one is well done.
The Generous Wife
Hot, Holy and Humorous
Thou Shalt Have Sex and Other Commands ◄ J reads between the lines a bit.
Intimacy in Marriage
5 Things Husbands Do that Turn Their Wives OFF Sexually ◄ Check this list and make changes as needed.
The Sexual Sin No One Will Talk About (But Many Are Committing) ◄ An article on sexual refusal. I pointed to this on Twitter and facebook and had very good response from both men and women.
Journey to Surrender
Changing Seasons ◄ This is a good article, but I especially like it because Scott shows how a man can help his wife by understanding her needs.
Marriage Negotiating Tips from FBI Top Negotiator ◄ Yes, there are a number of jokes possible with this, but Lori makes some good points.
5 Musts To Heal Your Marriage If You Cheated ◄ Just do these – any attempt to negotiate less than this will tell her she should not trust you.
There is a Need ◄ Pastor, looking to fill the seats? Try this!
I Met My Dad for the First Time ◄ “I don’t need closure, because closure means I’m done. I need healing. Healing means God isn’t finished.”
Helping Someone You Love Through a Tough Time ◄ Great article, written by someone on the receiving end.