And [Jesus] told this parable: “A man had a fig tree planted in his vineyard, and he came seeking fruit on it and found none. And he said to the vinedresser, ‘Look, for three years now I have come seeking fruit on this fig tree, and I find none. Cut it down. Why should it use up the ground?’ And he answered him, ‘Sir, let it alone this year also, until I dig around it and put on manure. Then if it should bear fruit next year, well and good; but if not, you can cut it down.'” [Luke 13:6-9 ESV]
In this parable, Jesus is showing us there’s a reasonable time to wait for fruit, and there are things we can do to encourage fruit. However, when those actions have been taken and there is still no fruit, the tree is useless.
I think this passage has a warning for anyone who is not being the kind of spouse they should be. A reasonable husband or wife will put up with things for a time. They’ll make a plea for a change and give a little more time. If there’s no change after this, they give up.
I’m not talking here about the rightness or wrongness of giving up, but rather the inevitability of it. What “give up” looks like will vary from couple to couple, but at best it is the silent death of the marriage that should have been. The marriage will likely continue for a time, maybe for life, but it will be a hollow shell of what is could be.
Has your wife given you “one more year”? If so, are you digging and fertilising?
Have you given your wife one more year? If so, were you very clear she’s about out of time?
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When “I Do” Feels More Like “I’m Done” ◄ Much like my post today.
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Dangers of Porn for the Whole Family ◄ An important read for any parent.
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I’m Right and You’re Wrong–So There! ◄ Do you correct needlessly?
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Is Looking At Porn Cheating? ◄ Wonder what women think about this?