My bride Lori and I go the extra mile for each other regularly. It’s a way of life for us.
One interesting things about this is the unspoken accessing going on. If I am tired, stressed, or busy, she’ll do certain things I normally do. If she’s tried, stressed, or busy I do certain things she normally does. However, it goes even further – if we’re both tried, stressed, or busy we each consider how bad off the other is, and do things accordingly.
Because we both do this, it’s easy for each of us to do it.
If you and your wife don’t have this habit, how do you start it?
By just doing it. Don’t tell her you’re doing it, don’t hint or play it up, just do it. Monitor her energy and how she feels mentally and emotionally, and step in for her when she’s overworked, stressed, or far too tired. Even if you’ve done too much, if she’s worse off step up and do some things for her. Keep at it, and odds are she will eventually reciprocate.