Early on in my marriage, I assumed it was my job to correct and fix my wife in every possible way. I failed to see the gross arrogance of this. I was the head and that must mean I was smarter and wiser. I wouldn’t actually have said I was smarter or wiser had someone asked, but somehow I still thought being the head both qualified and required me to fix my wife.
Today I would say I am sometimes part of what God uses to correct and fix my wife. My greatest challenge is knowing when to do or say something, and when to get out of the way so God can do His thing. I realise I’ve often interfered with God’s plans for my wife because of my arrogance, fear, selfishness, or just plain cluelessness.
It’s God’s job to grow up my wife, and He can do it far, far better than I can. What’s more, if I get involved when I shouldn’t, I give her an excuse for not hearing or following God.
Great tweet of the week:
Normal healthy #relationships go through three stages: falling in, falling out and falling back in love. #sexplanation @AskLaurieWatson
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
New blog this week – Cracking The Romance Code. New blog from a fellow with a lot of years of experience.
Featured Post – A must read article I saw this week:
intentionally yours posted Not Becoming the Father I Hated ◄ Is this a battle you are fighting, of should be fighting?
Cracking The Romance Code
“Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff”, can actually destroy your marriage. ◄ The little things can make a huge difference!
What is Romance? Have you ever consciously thought about how you define romance? ◄ Excellent thoughts on romance!
The Generous Wife
Intimacy in Marriage
5 Reasons You May Be Sexually Inhibited ◄ Some of these apply to men, but read it for a better understanding of your bride.
One Flesh Marriage
Religion is Hurting Your Marriage ◄ It may well be true – great article!
The Romantic Vineyard
“Don’t Talk To Anyone About This!” ◄ Things hidden do not get fixed.
Sex Within Marriage
You don’t have time for sex? ◄ Something has to go – but what?