In 2012 UCLA’s Center on Everyday Lives of Families published Life at Home in the Twenty-First Century: 32 Families Open Their Doors. The book is a warning that we are being overwhelmed by our stuff.
What jumped out at me was that managing the families possessions (AKA junk) caused many women elevated levels of stress hormones. Not men, just women. This doesn’t surprise me, but it is nice to have some solid research to back it up. Women don’t handle a cluttered or crowded environment well. Men can deal with it much better, even if it does bother them.
What do stress and stress hormones do to a woman? Makes her grouchy, tried, and less loving. Stress makes women more inclined to depression as well as a variety of diseases and a shorter life. Additionally the effect on a woman’s sex drive is like pouring water on a fire.
Maybe it is time to think long and hard about how much stuff you have. Maybe having less, and having it better organised, would improve your marriage in many ways.
Related resource: Simplify – 7 Guiding Principles to Help Anyone Declutter Their Home and Life is a great book by Joshua Becker. Available only on Kindle (living what he preaches!)