Life changes – frequently. If we don’t change with it, we end up with problems. This is true in all aspects of life, including our marriages. If you’re still doing what you did a few years ago in your marriage you’re way over due to reassess and make changes.
One reason people avoid doing this is we don’t like change. But that’s like ignoring the water leaking into the boat because you don’t like what it means! Another common reason to avoid change is the individual is content with how things are. I once had a man say to me “why should I change, I’m happy with things the way they are?” He is no longer married because his wife was far from happy with the way things were!
What has changed in the last few years? Have you added kids to your marriage? Have your kids grwon older or move out? Has the amount of time you and/or your bride work at a job changed? Has a new home changed how much needs to be done around the house? How have new activities and hobbies changed your lives? Have health issues caused changes?
Think about it for a bit, and then invite your wife to join you in discussing how life has changed and what should be adjusted.
By the way, there is a great little book about change entitled Who Moved My Cheese?: An A-Mazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life. It may be the most you will ever pay per page for a book, but it is a great and challenging read. (It is one of the books Dave Ramsey requires all his employees to read.)