Happiness = Reality ÷ Expectations

November 3, 2013

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“A mathematical formula for happiness: Reality divided by Expectations. There were two ways to be happy: improve your reality or lower your expectations.” ― Jodi Picoul

You think that’s valid? Can you be happier by expecting less? 

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Certainly unrealistic expectations lead to disappointment, but so too do low expectations. Multiple studies of students have proven kids live up to or down to what is expected of them, and adults are no different. Be it the expectations we have for ourselves, our spouse, or our marriage, both too high and too low will result in a less enjoyable life. 

The key then is finding that narrow range between expecting too much, and not expecting enough. Including your wife in finding that place would probably be a good plan.

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Great tweet of the week:

The need to be correct, to be right in every situation can tear at the fabric of your marriage. @GenerousWife

Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

Black and Married with Kids

Why I’m Deciding To Be More Authentic With My Wife ◄ “I’m betting on acceptance through authenticity.”


Cracking The Romance Code.

Why can’t she just make me happy? Pssst – Read to see why “Purple” is the best reading color for couples. ◄ I like the two colour highlighters idea here.


The Generous Wife

Party, Party ◄ Can an introvert and an extrovert party together?


Journey to Surrender

The Security of Physical Affection ◄ “What does grace have to do with sex? Everything.” 


refine us

You Can Start Today ◄ Your marriage can slip away one small bit at a time. Start changing that today.


Sex Within Marriage

Is masturbation a sin? ◄ Jay Dee and I keep kicking this one around.


Stupendous Marriage

I Don’t Enjoy Sex with My Husband ◄ Stu and Lisa discuss a variety of sexual issues.


…to Love Honor and Vacuum

Scheduling Sex: Sometimes a Marriage Needs a Little Planning! ◄ Might be a good article to discuss with your wife.

2 comments
HotHolyHumorous
HotHolyHumorous

I've long said it's "high standards, low expectations" that helps me with happiness. I don't settle for less, but I also don't expect everything to go swimmingly. I aim high, but expect some misses. Great topic!

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