I spent much of the afternoon sending out thank you emails to those who regularly support Lori and me, or the TMB general fund. I felt a deep gratitude for these people – a gratitude I do not express often enough.
Do you know who moves my heart the most? It is not folks who have been giving for the better part of a decade (though they do bless and amaze me). Nor is it those who give generously each month (who also bless me). The one that really gets to me is the person who sends a few dollars and change every so often. I don’t think it has ever been as much as five dollars. I don’t know the story, but I assume someone with very limited money is giving as they are able. I don’t know why they give, but I assume Lori or I have said something that blessed them. This person is not making a huge difference in terms of dollars, but they are having a huge effect on my heart.
I think this has an important marriage application. It’s nice when our wife gives out of her abundance, and it is nice when she gives repeatedly for months and years. However, we must not miss when she gives out of her lack. When she has almost no energy, and still gives, that’s huge. When she wants to go hide, but still makes an effort to bless, that’s huge. It’s too easy to miss or dismiss such giving because it’s so small, but this is a mistake. If you ignore her giving from her lack, or even worse complain it’s not enough, you’re telling her you only want her to give when she can give “at least this much”. Aside from being a slap in the face, this is a good way to ensure you will receive less in the future.
Jesus gave us the example on this in the story of the widow’s mite (Luke 21:1-4). Jesus said, “Truly, I tell you, this poor widow has put in more than all of them. For they all contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty put in all she had to live on.” You need to know when your wife gives all she has out of her poverty. You need to thank her based not on how much she gives, but how much it cost her. This is appropriate, and it encourages her to do the same again in the future.
All of those who give to us deserve our gratitude. Who have you failed to thank recently?
By the way, if you have supported us in the last year and have not heard from us, please accept my apology. I had a couple of email addresses bounce, and I may have missed someone. We are very grateful to all who support us with prayer, finances, and by pointing others our direction.