I want to revisit this as I challenge you to devote an entire year to having a better marriage. Why you work for a better marriage will be the biggest reason you succeed or fail. It’s more important than how well you do, and more important than how your wife reacts. Why is make or break!
Yes, a better marriage will be a good thing for you. Studies find a good marriage results in a long life for a man, and a better marriage will mean more sex. However, if being happier, living longer, or getting more sex are your primary “why”, I’d suggest you not bother. All those nice things are great results of building a better marriage, but they’re poor reasons to do the work because when you don’t see results “fast enough” you will falter.
Your why is what keeps you going. So, do it because it is right. Do it because you love your wife and you want her to have a better life. Do it because you care about the people around you, and you understand better marriages are infectious. Do it for your kids, because they’ll be happier and will have better marriages when they grow up.
I will be discussing this a couple more times before the first of the year. Decide if you’re in; decide if you’re willing to work all of 2014 at making yourself and your marriage better.