The past couple of days, with my wife having to do a number of things for me, we have bumped into differences in how we do things. It is so easy to feel one acceptable way is “right’ while a different acceptable way is “wrong”. Several times, I caught myself and said nothing. Several times, I did not catch myself and she did it my way without making a big deal about it. Once I saw the “you have got to be kidding” look for half a second.
For many things right and wrong are not valid concepts. Neither is better and worse, effective and infective, or any of the other ways we try to make our preference somehow better and more holy than our spouse’s preference. What if her way is only 89% as effective as my way – if her way works better for her, then for her it is a better way.
Do you correct how she does things when it really is not a big deal? You may mean to help, but I bet it does not feel like help.
Still, the only correct way to put on your shoes is to do the right one first!