Recently I’ve seen the issue of control a number of times. In my own life, in the lives of others, in the books I’m reading, on-line, and even in my dreams. I figure it’s not suddenly everywhere, rather I’m more aware of it because God wants to deal with me about control. Oh joy.
We all want to be in control of our lives. We want self-determination. We want to know where we are going and we want to be free to change directions whenever we feel like it. There are several problems with this, especially when we take it too far. A few of the big problems:
- The more I’m in control, the less control my wife has in our marriage and in her own life. I can exert control at her expense, or try to exert control and end up in a power struggle.
- Some things are beyond my control. Trying to exert control over those things is frustrating at best, and it can be downright destructive.
- I think the Bible says something about God wanting to be in control of my life.
Are you trying to control your life or marriage in places where control isn’t possible? Are you controlling your life or marriage in ways you should not?
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