A Widow’s Words

January 31, 2014

in Margin, Quality Time, Seeing Clearly

I recently received an email from the widow of a subscriber to this blog. She’s a very young woman and had been married to her husband for just a few years. Among other things, she said:

If I have anything to say to currently-married people, it’s just to always love each other as though it may be your last day together, and to not wait until the perfect opportunity to do special things together. 

Grave © topstep07 | freedigitalphotos.net

This woman and her husband had some big, long-term travel plans, but they took the time to take small trips together. They didn’t push life and marriage aside to build something for the future; they worked to live now as they built for the future. Because of this, the widow has many good memories of a husband who loved and cared for her in special ways. 

How are you doing at living for both the present and the future? If you knew one of you would die in five years, or one year, would you make changes? Would it be wise to make some of those changes even though you don’t know how long you each have?

Links may be monetised
Image Credit: © topstep07 | freedigitalphotos.net

Shop AmazonShop to give links page
We are donation supported – thanks for your help!
Where we’re going – Contact us about speaking

2 comments
bbh999
bbh999

How true. None of us know the days the Lord has allotted to us on this earth.

On March 25, 1994, I was in the shower getting ready for work when my wife of 25 years, Marie, came in to give me a goodbye kiss and tell me that when we got home from dinner at our friends' house that evening she had something special planned for me. She gave me that quick flirty smile, a flash of her wonderful eyes and she left for work.

In less than an hour, she was dead. She stopped for gas about half way to her work. She pumped the gas, went inside to pay and came back out and got inside the car. Her rider said that before Marie could start the car, she made a funny little muttering sound and slumped over against her.

That was the worst day of my life - by far. But one of the things that got me through it was the fact that I had no regrets about our life together. The talking, the joking, the listening to music together, the flirting, the lovemaking, the trips around Texas together, the kids - everything. I think they are all good memories.

She would be about 70 years old now. I sometimes wonder what the last 20 years would have been like had she lived. I believe I would still be thinking that I'm the most blessed man in the world.

My summary of Paul's message today: "Shape up, folks! Enjoy your life today. You don't know how much time you have left."

TheGenerousHusband
TheGenerousHusband moderator

@bbh999  Thank you so much for your words. I can say it, but it means so much more coming from you.

Previous post:

Next post: