It’s a wonderful and motivating thing to watch a couple deeply in love get married. My son broke into a smile when his bride appeared at the back of the church and was visibly happy the rest of the afternoon. They touched constantly and often whispered to each other. They didn’t ignore their guests, but the guests were very much second on their minds.
Do you remember when you were that way with your bride? Your heart jumped at the sight or thought of her, and it ached when you separated.
Some say it wouldn’t be healthy to live that way all the time. Maybe that’s true, but maybe it’s a truth exaggerated by those who secretly feel bad they’re no longer so madly in love.
If a couple does it right their love gets stronger over the years, but maybe it would be good if we kept a bit more of the excitement and longing to be together. Do we fall into a culturally accepted version of married love? Do we learn to downplay it so others don’t feel uncomfortable? Is the discomfort about someone acting unacceptably, or is it about feeling bad because we no longer love that way?
In many ways, I’ve not bowed to this pressure, but in some ways, I have. I’ve not gotten into the box, but I don’t stray very far from the box. It’s time for me to give that some serious thought. I think I would like to be known as that guy who loves his wife “too much” or “too openly” or something like that. I think it would be a help and a blessing to other marriages, and I know it would bless my bride.
I realise this is easier for me than for most – I get a bit of a pass because I am involved in marriage ministry. For the same reason, my doing it has less of an impact than when those who do not have a reason or excuse do the same. How about rattling some cages by being more openly loving with your spouse?
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