The next few Mondays I am going to write on some common major causes of marriage problems. If you see yourself in any of these, I hope my words will spur you to action. If you see others in what I say, I hope you will pray and look for an opportunity to help.
Immaturity comes in a number of forms. Some people are mature in some areas while being horribly immature in others. Some manage to act mature at work or church but are immature at home. Selfishness is a common sign of immaturity, but it can also be displayed as not being willing to listen to others, not being able to see outside of the box, a lack of empathy, impatience, or a lack of understanding and grace for other people’s weaknesses, inabilities, or struggles.
One of the difficulties with immaturity is those who are immature are blind to the fact. When we’re immature we see all our problems as being the fault of others. If they just thought and acted as we do, life would be good! Another difficulty is that going beyond immaturity means giving up selfishness, something no one wants to do. Becoming mature means taking on new levels of respectability and being more willing to sacrifice – more things we do not want to do.
How immature are you? Most of us have areas of immaturity. I keep finding areas of immaturity I didn’t see before; it seems to be a never-ending process.
For me, the book Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Unleash a Revolution in Your Life In Christ has been a huge help in growing up. Lori and I are a part of an amazing group of people who are slowly making our way through this book. We’re all seeing things about ourselves we had never before admitted to ourselves, and we’re starting to “confess” these things to one another. It’s a scary and amazing journey. If you want to know more, I wrote a review of this book last year.