What Women Want (Part 2)

February 19, 2014

in Communication, Seeing Clearly, Series, Understanding Her

So what do women want?

  1. To be heard
  2. To be understood
  3. To be accepted
  4. To be respected 

Being Understood

Hearing her is one thing; understanding her is another thing altogether. Hearing is easy, understanding can be challenging.

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First, you have to accept that she thinks and feels differently than you do. Next, you need to accept that how she thinks and feels is neither wrong nor less valid. If you can’t do those things, you’ll find it impossible to understand her. Understanding doesn’t mean you feel the same way or agree with her; if just means you “get her”.

Understanding may require getting a bit of background… or perhaps a great deal of background. The more you know about her past, her failures, her hopes, her fears, and her goals, the better you’ll understand her. She’s a puzzle, and fitting a few pieces together doesn’t give you the whole picture. However, every piece you connect gets you a better picture and moves you closer to real understanding.

Keep working at it, and don’t get frustrated when things don’t fit. Ask her questions, repeat what you think she said in your words and ask her if it’s right. Stay with it; it will get easier with time and practice.

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3 comments
UBAwesome
UBAwesome

It does get easier. Now, after 26 years it is a pleasure.

TheGenerousHusband
TheGenerousHusband moderator

@UBAwesome  If only we knew then what we know now. But would we have listened if someone tried to tell us?

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