What do women want?
- To be heard
- To be understood
- To be accepted
- To be respected
Admittedly, acceptance and respect are similar. To me, respect is deeper. Respect says you have value, you matter, what you do is important.
Respect happens on two levels. The first level is based on how the other person affects us and what is important to us. The second level is what they do beyond us, how they affect society. Because we all want to matter, the second level of respect is also important.
Some respect can be positional, based on who a person is. However, some respect only happens when it’s “earned”. You can’t respect how your wife helps others if she’s not helping others. Even if she desires to benefit others, she has to do it for you to respect her for it. You can help in this area by supporting her dreams and helping her reach beyond herself.
What about …
There have been several good additions suggested to my list of what women want. My theory is the man who gets these four right is going to know what his wife wants, and is going to be motivated to give her those things if possible. When a woman feels heard, understood, accepted, and respected, she feels comfortable telling her husband her desires, dreams, fears and so on. She will be able to share her individual wants and need, and he will be able to understand and address those things.