What is not on the table?
What are you unwilling to give up or negotiate? This is not about selfishness; there should be some non-negotiable things in marriage. For example, no one should be expected to live in a sexless marriage, and no one should be expected to live with abuse.
Other non-negotiable issues are more about what we need to be sane and healthy. If one of you is a rabid neat-nick, a home that looks like a disaster area is not acceptable. If one of you grew up being yelled at, a non-yelling home is a reasonable mental and emotional health requirement.
Not having non-negotiable issues is a bad sign. Having too many non-negotiable issues puts the marriage at risk. If you and your wife fall on opposite sides on a non-negotiable issue, your marriage is in crisis, and you need help ASAP.
Take some time to think and pray about this. What have you treated as non-negotiable? Which of those are valid, and which are rooted in selfishness? Which are beyond your ability to accept? Which can you give on some? Are there some you can let go?
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