Let’s be honest, change is rarely fast or easy. I mentioned I am losing weight. Still going down, but it is soooo slow! And saying no to all the food I love? That’s hard!
Changing your marriage is no different. It takes hard work, and it requires not falling back into old habits. Even when you do what you should, it takes time for your wife to see the change.
If you have been part of the 2014 Marriage Upgrade you may be starting to get discouraged. After more than two months, you may wonder what you have to show for your efforts. Maybe you have not done as well as you would like. Maybe you feel you have done well, but your wife seems blind to it. Are you starting to think the whole thing is a waste of your time? Do you feel it is more effort than it is worth?
PLEASE hang in there! You are still fighting your own habits, but you are getting close to beating some of them for good. Do not give up just before the victory! Your wife is still thinking your changes are too good to be true. She knows anyone can fake changes for a while. Maybe you have made a big show of changes in the past, but failed to keep with it for the long haul. You are getting close to the point where your changes can no longer be ignored. As you approach three months it will become increasingly obvious something has changed.
It may look bleak now, but it will get better. Keep going!
If you are filling out the upgrade checkpoint surveys, it is time to do another.