It seems our society lacks the desire to accept responsibility, and sees obligation as burdensome. This has all kinds of negative results, including devastating marriages.
In part, I think we have these problems because we have become too interested in “freedom”. We think we were born with a right to be free (this is especially prevalent in the States). Freedom is our God given birth right, and we should oppose anyone or anything limiting our freedom.
Thing is, the Bible does not echo this belief. The Jews at the time of Christ were not free; they were a conquered people with almost no rights. Many expected Messiah to set them free by overthrowing the Romans. This expectation caused them to miss the truth of who Jesus was. Jesus was concerned with hearts and minds, not politics. Jesus said the truth set people free – an internal freedom. Paul talked about being a bond-servant, a slave by choice to the Lord. The Bible does not tell us to seek freedom, it tells us to seek and serve the Lord.
Serving the Lord comes with responsibilities and obligations, including to our spouse and marriage. Most of what we are supposed to do with/for our wife has nothing to do with how she acts or what she does. God, not our feelings or her choices, obligates us.
I realise this can be a bitter truth, especially for those in difficult marriages. The world elevates happiness to a right, and tells us we owe it to ourselves to leave a bad marriage. God’s Word neither promotes nor allows for these ideas.
There are some “side benefits” to doing it God’s way:
- When you remove thoughts of getting out, it is easier to find peace.
- Committing to stay causes you to see your marriage differently.
- You will be more motivated to work on your marriage, even when it is difficult and painful.
- In time, your wife may respond positively to your change in attitude and actions.
Upgrading your marriage should not be about what you can get out of it. God has placed requirements on you as a husband. Doing what He desires is not optional if you are following Jesus!
This Week’s TMB Survey:
Concerned about your size? Does the size of your penis concern you?
Great tweet of the week:
A real man loves harder than he lusts.@RealMenTalk
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Featured Post – A must read article I saw this week:
Sheila of to] Love Honor and Vacuum postedOn Sin, Judgmentalism, and Brokenness: A Call for Compassion ◄ Some will disagree strongly, but I think this is spot on.
Black and Married with Kids
6 More Tips to Divorce Proof Your Marriage ◄ Another good list
The Generous Wife
Hot, Holy and Humorous
Leading Men Only
Her Period and You – A few Survival Tips ◄ The more you know…
One Flesh Marriage
One Word That Can Make Any Marriage Mediocre ◄ Are you using this word too much?
We Are In Different Seasons ◄ Often said – probably because it is so true.