The Hardest Job A Man Has

June 15, 2014

in Beyond the Marriage

Today is Father’s Day in the USofA. My adopted state, Washington, declared July 19th, 1910, the first Father’s Day. However, it wasn’t made a national holiday until 1972 – some 58 years after President Woodrow Wilson made Mother’s Day official.

And so it goes. While Mother’s Day sermons all about how wonderful mothers are, Father’s Day sermons have a tendency to be more about how to be a good father. I’m not against giving solid parenting advice, but why do mother’s get praised while father’s get warned?  

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My father was a wonderful godly man. He taught me a great deal with his words, and even more with his actions. Long after he died (when I was only 25), I discovered good things he planted in me during my too short time with him.

One of the most important things my father did was protect me from my mother. Not that my mother was abusive mind you. However, being a woman, she didn’t understand me. She didn’t understand my desire to test my limits, even when it resulted in me getting hurt. She would have limited me, and prevented me from becoming a man. My father protected me from that. He stood up for me (probably at great personal cost on some occasions) and gave me the freedom to learn and grow the way a man must. 

My father also protected my sister. He understood the way teenage boys think (sex, sex, sex, sex) and he set limits to protect her. She didn’t always appreciate it, and my mom thought he was over the top, but as an adult I know his actions were a true blessing to her.

Being a father is not for wimps. It’s difficult and often thankless. Your kids will get upset, and at times you will clash with your wife over the right way to raise your kids. For all of you who went beyond providing sperm, I say well done and thank you.

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Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

Black and Married with Kids

3 Actions that Can Destroy Your Marriage in the First Year ◄ Grow up and grow together.
9 Tips to Help Your Marriage Survive the Unexpected ◄ Good stuff!

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How To Make Your Marriage Journey A Positive Exploration ◄ Some great thoughts on growing your marriage.

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Instant Misunderstanding ◄ Check your communication lines.

The Generous Wife

What? Huh? ◄ Understanding comparative limitations.
Morning Prayer ◄ A great way to start the day.
Another What? Huh? ◄ Have you learned how to navigate potential blow-ups?
Contentment ◄ What gives your wife a sense of balance and contentment?

Journey to Surrender

Are You a Lover or a Worker? ◄ A brilliant post. Which are you?

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A Battle You Must Fight ◄ Are you being you?
5 Barriers to Oneness In Marriage ◄ Which of these are a problem for your marriage?

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It’s Just Stuff: Teach This Truth Well ◄ Will we ever learn?

Stupendous Marriage

How to Focus on Our Marriage (Even With Kids) ◄ Kids: A blessing and a challenge.


Wow, I find what you said about your mother to be hurtful and offensive. I would be very sad if one of my sons spoke this way about me.

TheGenerousHusband moderator

@Sktzcbg No offences was meant. God gave us mothers to protect us, and fathers to help us go beyond the protection at the emperor time. We are in trouble if we lack either parent.

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