I have a confession. When I first married my wife, her approval was far too important to me.
Of course, what our wife thinks should matter to us, but we can easily go beyond what is proper. If her lack of approval makes me feel horrible, I may be tempted to do things I should not, or not do things I should. I can honestly say I fought against that, but I am sure I did not avoid it as well as I want to think. I got my self-worth wrapped up in what she thought and said, and that is not a good place to be.
John Eldredge talks about taking our problem to the woman. Rather than turning to God, we turn to our wife. Instead of seeking the counsel of godly men, we ask the woman with whom we sleep.
If you have read me much, you know I am all about listening to the wisdom God gave your wife. However, you need to listen to more than just your wife. Men who fail to find the proper balance are at risk of being led astray. Even the most wise Solomon made this mistake (see 1 Kings 11:4)!
Sometimes doing the right thing means disappointing or upsetting people. Sometimes your wife will be one of those people. If you care too much about her approval, you are inviting disaster. Base your self-worth on the Lord and you will avoid some problems.
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