Have you heard of post-traumatic growth, or PTG? Some have called it the opposite of PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder), but I find such a definition limited. PTG is positive changes or growth an individual has as a result of overcoming a traumatic event. Those who undergo PTG experience one of more of the following
- Spiritual growth – “finding God”, or growing in existing faith.
- Improved relationships with others. More compassion for others, and a deeper desire to connect.
- See new possibilities for life. Consider things once thought impossible and set new goals.
- Improvement in self-image. Become more accepting and forgiving of limitations and past mistakes, while seeing in themselves strengths and abilities they never saw before.
- A new view of life. More forgiving and eager to offer grace. Less materialistic and vindictive. Change in what matters and what does not.
Traumatic events do not always result in growth. Those who have a strong faith going in are more likely to grow because of trauma. Women are more likely to experience PTG than men, and those who have good social connections are better at PTG.
I have seen PTG in couples. Some couples are stronger and healthier after an affair, loss of a child, or going bankrupt. There is a lot of pain and difficult times, but in the end, their marriage is better than before. Traumatic events always change a couple, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.
What is the point of all this? I want you to understand disaster does not have to ruin you, or your marriage. It may not be as simple as making a choice, but then again it may be. At the very least, I want you to know tragedy can end well. The next time you face something horrible, consider the possibility some great good could come from how you react.
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This Week’s TMB Survey:
Is Sex Better with Age A survey for those married ten or more years.
Last Week’s TMB Survey Results
Female Ejaculation Sixteen percent do it regularly.
Great tweet of the week:
Focusing on your spouse’s weaknesses is like telling your teammate everything you hate about your team. @PressurePts
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
The 30-Day Clutter Challenge – Less Stuff, Less Stress, More Calm ◄ You know I am all about less stuff!
Marriage Not Perfect? Not a Problem! ◄ “Building a Great, but Not Perfect Marriage”
How To Preserve a Healthy Marriage With Independence ◄ Healthy and unhealthy freedoms in marriage.
The Generous Wife
Journey to Surrender
Seven Gifts the Church Should Give America for Her Birthday ◄ A great pro-marriage article. EVERY pastor needs to read and follow #7!
Leading Men Only
It’s Routine – Exercise Your Soul ◄ Do you regularly exercise your soul?
The Labels We Choose ◄ How do you define yourself?