I have heard it said it is better to aim for a goal and miss than aim for nothing and hit it. I also know reasonable goals help us accomplish things.
What are your marriage goals for July 2016? What do you want to be different? What do you want to have resolved? What about your sex life, what goals do you have there?
Are your goals sane, or are they unreasonable? If you shared your goals with your wife, would she agree? Would she be surprised or shocked by some of your goals? If the two of do not have similar marriage goals it is rather unlikely you will accomplish them.
Beyond your marriage, where do you want to be? Do you want to have new employment? Do you want a different home? Do you want to move across town, across the country, or half way around the world? What new skills do you want to have? What do you want to have accomplished? While some of these are a bit less dependent on your wife, most of them are more likely to happen if your wife is on board.
Now what about your wife’s goals? What does she want her life to look like two years from now? What changes does she want?
Take some time to think and dream about the life you want two years from now. Then write down what you think, and ask your wife to do the same. Share what you each want, and spend some time praying and discussing these goals. Work to arrive at common goals for your marriage, and set personal goals your spouse can support. Start talking about these goals regularly, and figure out what you have to do to make them happen.
Two years from now, I plan to be living in an RV. We will be moving west across the upper part of the US, headed for Spokane where we will spend a couple of months of the summer before heading back out on our travels. We will have done a half a dozen or more small marriage conferences over the preceding months, with more to occur in the fall. We will each have continued to grow personally in every way – especially spiritually. I will be more loving and more gracious to my wife. Our marriage will be stronger, and our sex life will be better for both of us.