Supposedly, the “missionary position” got its name from natives amused at the strange way Christian missionaries had sex. In reality, no use of the term can be found before Alfred Kinsey told this story without any supporting evidence.
Be the story real or not, there was a time in history when most Christians were convinced it was sinful to have sex in any other position. In part, this was because man was the head and as such should be on top. Additionally, when the church decided women should not want or enjoy sex, it become obviously wrong for a couple to use any position which suggested the woman was taking an active part. While this thinking is mostly outdated, I still run into people who believe this every so often.
If you want to keep women from enjoying sex, limiting it to man on top is a good start. The motion of this position is an excellent way for a man to climax as it gives him good friction between the head of his penis and the woman’s vagina. Unfortunately this friction does nothing for a woman, unless it’s fast enough or prolonged enough to make her sore. A woman’s climax requires at least indirect stimulation of the clitoris, and male on top does a rather poor job of this.
If you actually want her to climax during intercourse, the best bet if for her to be on top (cowgirl position), and for her to control the movement and timing. When we asked women about having an orgasm during intercourse, a third said they found being on top the best way to climax. Only 12% said their husband on top was the best. Digging deep the trend is even stronger. Of women who say they use cowgirl most of the time, 70% found it the best way to orgasm. For those who use man on top most of the time, 15% said it was the best way for them to orgasm, while 30% said cowgirl was the best.
Yes, some women can manage to climax with their husband on top, but most can’t. Not all women climax when they are on top, but it’s the best bet by far. So, do all you can to get her in the saddle!
I know some women are unwilling to try this position. This can be because they feel it’s wrong, or because they feel self-conscious. Body image is a common issue, as they feel more exposed in this position. Sex with the lights low or off will help with this, as will having her leave on a t-shirt.