Turn Off the TV and Be Intimate!

January 2, 2016

in Her Needs, Margin, More & Better Sex in 2017, Quality Time

This post is a major part of the More and Better Sex in 2017 initiative. You can’t have a good solid relationship with your wife if you don’t spend enough time with her. And when I say spend time with her I don’t mean being in the same room, or driving silently in the car together, or watching television or a movie together. I also don’t mean having sex!

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A healthy relationship requires regular big blocks of time together. It doesn’t mean you have to be talking deeply the whole time, but most of your activities during this time need to allow for some good conversation. Some games fit that, many do not. (Generally, first person shooter games don’t – sorry!) Working on a project around the house or yard may be a good option, it depends on how well you work together.

My suggestion is you find two hours two days a week to spend time with your wife. This two separate blocks of two hours, not 48 minutes five days a week and not eight hours every other Saturday. How you package the time matters here.

As suggested by the title of this post, you may have to watch less television to make this happen. For many of us, television eats up more disposable time than anything else – or even everything else combined! If you want to give her the time she needs you may have to sacrifice a few TV shows. Is she worth it?

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8 comments
Mr Bunbun
Mr Bunbun

El Fury got to it before I could. My wife and I play tabletop games together. It's a fantastic way to interact. Especially the ones that give players a lot of opportunities to to be either merciful or totally cutthroat. As a friend of mine once said, you never truly know someone until you've played a board game with them. That goes double for your spouse. Plus, you can make pretty anything a "strip" game. ;)

themarriagebed
themarriagebed moderator

@Mr Bunbun  "Plus, you can make pretty anything a "strip" game. ;) "

Which puts the man at a disadvantage - not than we complain! 

Eldar3
Eldar3

Good points, but I know my wife actually asks for TV time as a time to sit/cuddle together.  Part of it is that we don't watch a lot of TV in general, so sitting together to watch something is meaningful, along with some of the other things mentioned.

themarriagebed
themarriagebed moderator

@Eldar3  If it's not just mindless staring it can be a good thing, in limited doses. 

Embertoe
Embertoe

My wife and I had a discussion along a similar line. She asked, why I didn't plan date nights with her. This after she had already asked a few other times. I got defensive instead of listening to her heart. I feel terrible that I don't plan out of town outings or simple movie/dinner nights. It's just a simple thing too, not hard at all. So guys, don't forget to plan and prepare a night out with your friend/lover/wife!

themarriagebed
themarriagebed moderator

@Embertoe  Us planning it is like her initiating sex - it makes her feel loved and special.

El Fury
El Fury

Teevee is the worst. My wife and I have found a ton of enjoyment playing board games together. Go to boardgamegeek.com to find some options that work well for two players, and turn off the television.

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