We all know two wrongs don’t make a right, but I often hear a hurt spouse say something that suggests they think they are an exception to this.
A few examples:
- Thinking it’s okay to withhold something from their spouse because their spouse is withholding something from them.
- Justifying their unloving or selfish behaviour by pointing out the unloving or selfish thing their spouse did.
- Saying their sin is “understandable” because of the sin committed by their spouse. Or saying their spouse has no right to be bad upset about their sin because of the spouse’s sin.
When your spouse does something wrong, hurtful, or sinful, you have the opportunity to add to the problem or make it better. Adding to it hurts both of you and your marriage.
I understand the draw of getting even or using what she did as an excuse to do what you want to do. I’ve given in to those urges far more often than I would like to admit, and looking back I can’t say it ever worked out well for me. And it certainly never worked out well for our marriage!
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We’ve done nothing on surveys for a couple of weeks because of work on transitioning The Marriage Bed site from Joomla to Word Press and changing host companies. We hope to be doing surveys again this week.
Great tweet of the week:
Nowhere in God’s Word are we given permission to sin because our spouse has. “Getting even” hurts you both. @SongSix3
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Featured Post – A must read article I saw this week:
The Forgiven Wife posted How Does He React When He Hears “No”? ◄ If this posts stings, ask yourself why.
Come to Me ◄ Guilting her into sex because of your needs will not satisfy the deep longing in your soul for connection.
Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart
Your Dying Spouse 283 – How Can I Help? ◄ Sometimes receiving help is a gift.
Your Dying Spouse 284 – Eating To Live ◄ Eating can be a difficult thing for those who are terminally ill, making it hard to share a meal.
The Generous Wife
Heaven Made Marriage
The Power of Your Paradigm ◄ What we believe shapes our lives.
Hot, Holy and Humorous
Q&A with J: Is It Possible to Have a Great Marriage (and Sex) Long Term? ◄ Yes! Yes it is!
6 Reasons Sarcasm Kills Relationships ◄ If you’re given to sarcasm, you need to read this one.