I too am very passionate about marriage and long to see marriages healing and growing.
It saddens me to see the colossal ignorance among professing Christians regarding the TRUE biblical marriage. They almost always speak of it in non-biblical terms such as "partnership."
True, husbands are to take the lead in spiritual matters, "in everything" found in God's Word (Ephesians 5:24). But in the original Greek language we find no injunction for husbands to "rule" over their brides or their households. In fact, Christ forbid it. Believe it or not, the original Greek teaches that wives have domestic authority OVER their husbands and are to “rule” their household (I Timothy 5:14) in "domestic matters" (same verse; Weymouth's version). There are even several scriptures that encourage wives to discipline their husbands!
(I know most men will scoff at this, but if they took the trouble to honestly and objectively look into the matter, they would discover it’s true.)