Being Outdoors is Healing

April 27, 2016

If I said spending some time with your wife by a lake or in the forest would be good for your marriage, would you think I’ve finally driven too many miles in one day? Both Lori and I have found we feel better about pretty much everything, including each other, when we stay where there […]

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Where Does the Time Go?

April 26, 2016

If someone followed you around for week keeping meticulous records of how you used your time, I bet you’d be shocked at how much time you spend on certain things. And how little you spend on other things.  Our brains are actually horrible at tracking time. We know “time flies when you’re having fun” and time […]

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Slip Into No Sex Touch

April 25, 2016

Most women want and need more touch, but many shrink from it because they have a problem with sex. Others are fine with sex but find it hard to receive touch if they feel it is always a play for sex. To combat this, institute six-hour sexless touch events. When you declare such an event, you’re […]

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Prophylactic Prayer

April 24, 2016

So tell the truth, do you tend to use prayer as a post problem tool? This has been my primary use of prayer for much of my life. When things went bad I called out to God to rescue me. I know God loves me and will answer, but I also know He doesn’t expect […]

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Getting Back to Holy Sex: What If Women Are Very Sexual?

April 23, 2016

This may seem to be a departure from my posts telling men their sex drive is right and good, but it’s not.  The last few weeks, I’ve read or heard something several times. Last Saturday I heard it from Dan B Allender, who I respect a great deal. The short version of the message is […]

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Friday Flashback: The Curse of Knowledge

April 22, 2016

Curse of knowledge is a cognitive bias that causes us to expect others to act on knowledge known to us but not the other person. I am so guilty of this with my bride! I expect her to know what I know, and to process decisions based on what I know – even when I should […]

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Learn To Identify Hangry

April 21, 2016

The other day my wonderful wife was a bit short with me. Most would not have called it short, but for her it was. Then I realised she had in the last few minutes been overly frustrated at not finding a product where she thought is should be in a store and at difficulty getting […]

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Pointless Arguments

April 20, 2016

I was in a store and I overheard a couple having an argument. Husband: “That’s where Christy bought her bowls.” Wife: “Where?” Husband: “Michael’s”  Wife: “No she didn’t.” Before they moved out of earshot I heard them do three full rounds of “Yes she did”, “No she didn’t”. Please note these were adults of at […]

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