Great Sexpectations Can Go Horribly Wrong

October 15, 2016

Expectations can be wonderful, harmful, or disastrous. Sexpectations (sexual expectations) are all of these things on steroids. You and your wife both came into marriage with sexpectations. Odds are you didn’t talk much about your sexpectations before you got married, and if you’re like most couples you’ve never had a good conversation about how you each […]

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Friday Flashback: Wife Protection Mode

October 14, 2016

I’m all for protecting your wife, but I don’t think defending her when she’s wrong is right, and I’m sure attacking those who try to lovingly show her she’s wrong is unacceptable. Certainly, we can, and I think should, defend her if she’s being attacked, but the truth in love isn’t an attack and shouldn’t […]

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3 Simple Actions to Improve Your Marriage

October 13, 2016

This is the third post based on Chris Guillebeau’s The Art of Non-Conformity blog. Today I’m running off of Three Simple Actions to Increase Your Available Options. Write about your future marriage. What would you like your marriage to look like five years from now? Take a few minutes to write down how you want your marriage to […]

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Are You Willing to Change Your Tactics to be Heard?

October 12, 2016

Today’s post was prompted by If Your Vision Isn’t Being Understood, Never Hesitate to Change Your Tactics over on Chris Guillebeau’s The Art of Non-Conformity blog. Good communication is about sharing ideas. The difficulty is we all speak and hear language differently than others. And since being male or female is a major difference in what words mean to […]

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Is Playing It Safe Actually Risky?

October 11, 2016

My thoughts for today, Wednesday, and Thursday come from posts Chris Guillebeau ran on his The Art of Non-Conformity blog a couple of months ago. Chris often says things that resonate with me. I’m starting with a post prompted by Playing It Safe Is Riskier Than You Think. It’s interesting it was more than a month ago […]

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Why Sharing Your Day Matters to Her

October 10, 2016

Your wife really, really, really wants to know about your life. She wants to know what you think, what you feel, and what you do when she’s not with you. Some men feel this is invasive. They think she’s checking up on him or trying to micromanage his life. In reality, she wants to know […]

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Happy or Holy? Why Not Both?

October 9, 2016

It started with Gary L. Thomas’ (excellent) book Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? The critical part is what I’ve bolded, and some have lost that part. Pastor Miles McPherson has been quoted as saying “Marriage is not there to make you happy, marriage is there to […]

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Thou Shall Lust After Thy Wife?

October 8, 2016

Last month I read two different blog posts about lust. I agree with both posts if we are using the English definition of lust. However, the Greek word translated as lust in the New Testament is a very different word. I think we miss a lot of truth when we think the Bible talks about […]

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