Where Do You Want to be In Two Years?

July 24, 2014

I have heard it said it is better to aim for a goal and miss than aim for nothing and hit it. I also know reasonable goals help us accomplish things. What are your marriage goals for July 2016? What do you want to be different? What do you want to have resolved? What about […]

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You Go First

July 23, 2014

My mom had a scrapbook of cartoons she had collected in the late 50′s and early 60′s. In one, a couple was sitting in their easy chairs, both looking cross. He was holding a picket sign reading, “No sex, no love”. Her sign read, “No love, no sex.” In other words, each of them was […]

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What Will You Regret When You’re Dying?

July 22, 2014

Five years ago, Bronnie Ware wrote a blog post entitled The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying. The post has been read by millions, and since turned into a book. Bronnie was a palliative care nurse, caring for people during their last days or weeks of life, so she has good “research” on this issue. Here are the […]

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Beware of Sour Grapes

July 21, 2014

Driven by hunger, a fox tried to reach some grapes hanging high on the vine but was unable to, although he leaped with all his strength. As he went away, the fox remarked ‘Oh, you aren’t even ripe yet! I don’t need any sour grapes.’ [Aesop's Fables - The Fox and the Grapes] People who […]

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You’ve Got to Believe!

July 20, 2014

Last Friday I reran an old post in which I mentioned a study that found 13% of couples in long-term marriages still felt deeply in love, and still had strong sexual feelings. One commenter said, “13% – Almost makes me want to weep – such a sad statistic.” I agree it is sad only 13% feel […]

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Who Do You Say You Are?

July 19, 2014

This last week I have discussed many of the people and groups who try to tell you who you are. Ultimately, what matters is who you think you are. In the Matrix, Morpheus explains how Neo looks by saying “Your appearance now is what we call ‘residual self-image’. It is the mental projection of your digital self.” […]

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Who Does Porn Say You Are?

July 18, 2014

Last year a study on how porn affects college men was cancelled because the researchers could not find ANY male students who had not been exposed to porn. There may be a few men reading this who have not seen porn, but it is probably less than one percent. Porn changes how you see sex, […]

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Who Does Your Wife Say You Are?

July 17, 2014

This one is a double-edged sword. You certainly need to be aware of what your wife thinks of you, and who she thinks you should be. Totally ignoring what she thinks will have negative effects. However, becoming too concerned about it will make a mess of your life and your marriage. If what she thinks is […]

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