Who Said You Can’t Do It?

October 1, 2015

Being told you’re a failure is bad enough; being told you can’t before you even try is worse. Again, this usually has far more to do with the person telling you that you can’t do it than it has to do with you. Maybe they tried it and failed. Maybe they were afraid to try […]

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Who Said You’re a Failure?

September 30, 2015

Who in your past said you were a failure?  Most of us could come up with a list easily, and family would likely feature prominently on the list. All too often people call us a failure because we’ve failed to be who they think we should be, or do what they think we should do. A classic example is […]

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Who’s Defining You?

September 29, 2015

Yesterday I talked about defining yourself. One big reason we need to do this is that others are always defining us as they see us, or as they want us to be. Such defining rarely has much to do with who we are or who we’re trying to become.  I think it’s important to fight […]

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Does Your Job Define You?

September 28, 2015

Next month I’ll be at a men’s retreat done by Bootcamp NW, a group of men sharing ideas popularised by John Eldredge and Ransomed Heart Ministries. This is my forth time with this group, and I’m very much looking forward to it. One odd dynamic at these retreats is most of us have read enough to know defining ourselves […]

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Choose to be Wronged

September 27, 2015

“Why not rather suffer wrong? Why not rather be defrauded? But you yourselves wrong and defraud…” [1 Cor 6:7b-8a ESV] “Wouldn’t it be far better to just take it, to let yourselves be wronged and forget it? All you’re doing is providing fuel for more wrong, more injustice, bringing more hurt to the people of […]

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And, You’re too Busy for Sex!

September 26, 2015

On Thursday, I told you that You’re too Busy! I told you how it’s shortening your life, stealing your joy, and hurting  your marriage. But it gets worse: being too busy is also hurting your sex life. Busyness comes up repeatedly as a reason for sexual problems. This is true of the surveys we do as well […]

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Friday Flashback: Sex by Memory?

September 25, 2015

The other day I was reading about two kinds of memory – procedural and declarative. Declarative is facts we can recall – like our phone number, math concepts, and how to spell (at least some of us remember how to spell, for those like me God made spell check  ;-)  ). Procedural memory is things […]

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You’re too Busy!

September 24, 2015

Even though I’ve never met most of you, I know virtually all of you are too busy. I know this because being too busy is a cultural illness, and it takes great intentionality to avoid contracting this horrible disease many have called “hurry sickness“. It’s a horrible malady, and killing us before our time is […]

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