Twenty seven years and counting

January 27, 2012

  Today is our 27th wedding anniversary. The pictures here will show that we really liked each other when we got married. I mean we REALLY liked each other.   However, no matter how much love you have, there are difficulties. On lists of “top 10 divorce risks,” we scored 6 to 8, so we [...]

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Get away – you can’t afford not to.

January 26, 2012

This post, and those from the last several days, were written a week ago and set to auto publish. The reason for this is that my bride and I have run away for a few days to celebrate our anniversary. Yes, we braved the pass in the snow just to get away together.  I have often said you need to [...]

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She needs respect too

January 25, 2012

I fully agree with Emerson Eggerichs that men are desperate for respect from their brides, while women hunger for love from their husbands. ( See Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs (affLink) ) but this does not mean a wife has no need for respect. I have known women who were dying [...]

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Different is not wrong … or stupid

January 24, 2012

It seems we live in a world that looks down on “different”. Even in so-called “open minded” circles, only certain differences are tolerated, and even fewer are praised.  What about your marriage - is it open to different? Do you and your bride “allow” each other to be unique, or do you work to keep each other [...]

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Words mean things … different things to diffident people

January 23, 2012

We all speak different dialects. We use the same words, but we don’t define those words exactly the same way. The differences in what words mean to us are a result of our family of origin, our culture, our gender, education, media, and many other things. This is especially a problem in a language like English, which mixes [...]

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Double standards and the weaker spouse

January 22, 2012

Below is how I read Romans 14 with regards to marriage: One spouse believes s/he may eat anything, while the weak spouse eats only vegetables. Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who eats. Let us not pass judgment on our spouse [...]

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Double standards in a queen size bed – Better Sex in 2012

January 21, 2012

I can’t do a series on double standards and ignore the bedroom! However, this is a tough one; the golden rule often does not work in the area of sex. What you most want may not be anything like what she wants, and giving you what she wants probably wouldn’t thrill you. How do you set a standard when sex is so different for [...]

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Double standards – the one’s we don’t see

January 20, 2012

Double standards are sneaky – they can hide from us. If you don’t see them, you can’t deal with them, but they can still hurt your marriage. This is where you need help – you need someone to point out your double standards. Your bride can do this for you in general, and can also [...]

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