Friday Flashback: She Needs Foreplay More Than You

August 22, 2014

Note: On Fridays, I am rerunning a series of posts done in 2009. The posts, intended to improve your sex life, are based on Sex on the Brain: 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life by Daniel G. Amen M.D.. In Sex on the Brain, Dr Amen lists the “Nine common questions about differences between men and […]

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DIY Marriage Coaching: A Common Goal

August 21, 2014

Imagine you and your wife are canoeing on a river. You are both paddling, but you are trying to go different directions. You will not end up where either of you wants to be, instead you will be taken by the current.    Without a common goal, the direction of your marriage will be something […]

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Husband-In-A-Box

August 20, 2014

Yesterday I talked about how your expectations can create a box in which you think your wife should reside. Boxing is not a male thing, it is a human thing, and plenty of wives have boxes for their husbands. How do you lovingly communicate you do not want to live in a box? How do you […]

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Bride-In-A-Box

August 19, 2014

Humans like to put people in boxes. We define our jobs so everyone knows what is and is not expected, and we want to do the same thing with our relationships. We come into marriage with expectations. We add more expectations as time goes by. These expectations create a box in which we try to keep […]

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How Would God Have You Treat Her?

August 18, 2014

Yesterday in Rejecting What God Offers, I talked about how God sees you. What He thinks you should have, and how He thinks you should be treated. What about your wife? What does God think she should have, and how does He think she should be treated? More importantly, what does He want you to give her, and […]

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Rejecting What God Offers

August 17, 2014

Recently I have been thinking and meditating a good deal on the parable of the prodigal son.  Like that son, you and I should say to God, “I have sinned against you. I am no longer worthy to be called yours. Treat me as something less.” We say this when we realise the reality of our […]

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Sex: She’s Hurting Too

August 16, 2014

I recently suggested wives who refuse sex or act as gatekeepers are hurting over sex too, probably just as much as their husbands . More than one man said he doubted this was true. Women do not say no to sex because they get a perverse kick out of saying no. Saying no creates conflict, […]

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Friday Flashback: On Her Right Side

August 15, 2014

I am rerunning a series of posts done in 2009. The posts, intended to improve your sex life, are based on Sex on the Brain: 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life by Daniel G. Amen M.D.. If you are to the right side of someone (right of centre) you are being processed more by their left […]

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