Routine Marriage Maintenance

February 24, 2015

For a while now, Andrew aka BudekSchmeisser of Blessed Are The Pure Of Heart, has been commenting on many of my posts. A couple of times he’s said he thinks couples should see a marriage counsellor every six months, just as you see a dentist twice a year. The more I think about it, the more […]

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What My Dad Taught me About Marriage

February 23, 2015

Today is my father’s birthday. He was promoted to heaven years ago, but the date always makes me think about him.   I know my mom and dad had struggles in their marriage. Nothing compared to many, but it was not as happy as I wish it had been. We didn’t see much of that […]

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Like a Shepherd

February 22, 2015

My Bible reading recently had me in 1st Peter. I’ve been reading out of The Message as it makes me think about the scriptures in a new way. I often flip to other version to compare, which adds to the chance to learn something I have missed before. The following is not about marriage, but […]

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What if Gatekeepers Are Victims?

February 21, 2015

Lori and I have been kicking something around for a while, and the Christian Sex Class post Refreshment really helped to crystallise it for me. Two things jumped out at me in the post. Below are her words, followed by my thoughts: 1) “From the time girls are young, we are taught to protect ourselves in order to remain […]

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Friday Flashback: Is Your Peer Pressure Positive or Negative?

February 20, 2015

The article Why Group Norms Kill Creativity says the people we spend time with influence our thinking – even such things as being “liberal” or “conservative”. I’ve seen how our opinions about marriage are influenced by those we spend time with. Things influenced by “peer pressure” include what we think we should to do to be a “good […]

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Shared Dreams and Goals

February 19, 2015

For the last 14 months, Lori and I have shared the goal of getting an RV and travelling full time. For most of our marriage, we’ve shared the dream of doing a good deal of travelling together. Shared dreams and goals are a powerful tool for building intimacy. They give you something to talk about, and they […]

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Speak up Before You Give Up!

February 18, 2015

I recently had a discussion with a man who’s reaching the end of his rope in his marriage. Actually, I have this discussion at least once a month via email. Often the issue is a persistent lack of sex, but it can be other things too. I always encourage the man to speak up before […]

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Look What God Did!

February 17, 2015

About 13 months ago, I first mentioned our dream of getting an RV and travelling full time doing small seminars and meeting folks around the country. In an update on the idea last June, I said, “There is no way we can make this happen, it will have to be God.” Now God has weighed in. A couple of […]

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