Quality Place

To have "quality time" you have to be feeling good. If you are grumpy, tried, distracted or otherwise not able to give your all, how can you share quality anything?

Also consider your surroundings when you spend time together. Are there things that will distract one or both of you? Are your surroundings peaceful, or hectic? Are you in a room that is filled with pleasant memories of time together, or does the room have a number or bad memories? What about the things you see, smell, and hear, do they compete for your attention?

Sometimes it takes very little to make a big change. When the boy child was a baby, my bride and I would go sit on the front porch after he was in bed. Leaning against the door we could hear him if he cried, but we were outside, in the dark, listening to the crickets and other sounds of the night. How much better this was than being in the living room she felt cooped up in all day, or the bedroom that sent my thoughts to things she could not contemplate until she relaxed and connected with me.

Put some thought into this, and then talk with your bride about it. A few small changes could make a big difference.