Give her some flowers to brighten up the cold, dark time of year. And, do it now, before it's expected for Valentine's - and before the prices go up for Valentine's!
Posts Tagged ‘sneaky’
Winter flowers
Wednesday, January 20th, 2010Buy smart
Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009Okay guys, seven weeks and a few days till Christmas. What would really bless her this year? Maybe it's not about cost, but about giving her a gift, or gifts, that tell her that you have been paying attention to her, and what she likes.
So start taking notes of what she mentions, what she turns her head at when she hears a commercial, and what she looks at in the store.
Would you check the …
Friday, October 23rd, 2009Get her to look where you have placed love note by making up a reason she needs to check that area. "Would make sure I locked the door" or "I may have left a light on or "Check and see if we need milk".
Hand signal
Friday, October 16th, 2009Give her a silent "I love you" by squeezing her hand several times, or resting your hand on her arm, leg, or shoulder and giving her a few small pats that she can feel but others won't notice.
Black light sex
Saturday, September 19th, 2009I stole this from the ChristianNymphos, a group of Christian gals who think married Christian ladies should have great sex:
"Your mission this week is to get a black light for your room and then have fun with glow in the dark things like white lingerie and messages written on your body with a highlighter. This is going to add a unique and lighthearted element to your love making. Just have fun with it."
Clearly you could have a lot of fun with this, but I also think there might be a place for this in a marriage where the wife is shy about showing her body. If she is not comfortable with the lights on, what about a black light and white lingerie? Or, what about a coloured bulb? This could give you some of the visual thrill you are looking for, while making her feel a bit less exposed.
Note on the ChristianNymphos: I have some minor differences with these ladies on where certain lines are drawn, but I know they are all about follow God's plan, and I find nothing in what they say that is clearly unbiblical. A good place for a woman who is looking to enjoy sex more, and is past being offended by her own sexuality.
New and improved
Wednesday, July 15th, 2009Find something small around the house that is worn out, falling apart, or just not doing what it should any more - and replace it. Don't say anything, just replace the item.
Regifted
Wednesday, July 8th, 2009Give her something you gave her a long time ago - preferably before you were married. The gift is not as important as the memories that it will bring back, so choose wisely.
Or - give her something that will remind her of a place you used to go - a box of straws if you hung out at a malt shop, a menu from the place you used to eat often, a card or soap bar from the hotel were you honeymooned.
Post your ideas on-line!
Get her to hear you right
Monday, July 6th, 2009"Our studies corroborate the idea of a common ancestry - in humans and other species - of lateralized behavior during social interactions, not only for species-specific vocal communication, but also for affective responses." (Source)
Well of course, why didn't someone tell me that years ago?! 
Jargon aside, the study referenced found that in at least some situations, asking for something in a person's right ear was more successful than asking them in their left ear. The theory for why this happens is that things heard by the right ear are processed by the left hemisphere of the brain, resulting in better understanding and/or a more positive reaction.
Of course this is not a magic method of getting your bride to say yes to anything and everything. But you may have a better chance of getting a fair hearing if you are closer to her right ear. On the other side of it, you may have a better ability to follow what she says if you turn so that your right ear is towards her.
BTW - whispering "I love you" in to either ear is a good plan.
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