Now that the weather is getting nice, why not make an after-dinner walk together a regular part of your evening?
A couple times around the block together is good for your marriage. A longer walk is also good for your health.
Last Sunday I suggested asking yourself if negative thoughts about your wife come from someplace other than your own mind. Then on Friday, I did a “rerun” of a post talking about the internal battle between the good husband and the bad husband.
Having a good marriage means fighting for it, and the primary battleground is in our minds!
We have so many bad ideas about marriage to deal with. We get them from our culture and from our family of origin. We also get wrong ideas about marriage from well-meaning folks who preach things that are not actually in the Bible. Then we have our own self-interest and selfishness, which we use to excuse what we do wrong while exaggerating what our wife does wrong.
So many thoughts, and so many of them harmful to our marriage. If you don’t defeat those thoughts they will cause problems. Just ignoring them is not enough, you have to wrestle with them and beat them.
Please fight for your marriage, even when it means fighting yourself!
I show you the good husband and the bad husband. Choose the good.
Did you know there’s an epic battle going on inside you? A good husband and a bad husband are battling it out for control of your body and mind, and the power to bless or curse your bride.
Okay, maybe I’ve seen too many action movies – but I think the point is valid. On the one hand, we each have the potential to be loving, giving, caring, generous and selfless. On the other hand, we have the potential to be greedy, selfish, manipulative, controlling and spiteful. If you listen, you can hear the fight within yourself at times. One voice is accusing your bride, taking the worst possible view of every word she speaks and every action she takes. The other voice sees her through the eyes of love – giving her every benefit of the doubt, and loving her even when she’s far from perfect.
If you’re not intentional about this battle your mood and feelings will determine which voice you follow, and your bride will experience a confusing mix of loving and unloving behaviour from you. However, if you determine to resist the bad husband and encourage the good husband, the war will cease to be a stalemate and the good husband will take the upper hand. Some battles will still go to the bad husband, but those will become fewer and fewer.
[This post first appeared May 19, 2010.]
For those of you in the USofA the deadline for getting your federal taxes done is 33 days away.
If doing your taxes has EVER put stress on your marriage, please make a point of keeping that stress to a minimum this year. One of the best ways to do that is to not wait till the last weekend to start in on it.
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I’ve never been with a high maintenance woman. However, I had a girlfriend who was medium maintenance, and that was enough to convince me low maintenance was one of my requirements for a wife.
A low maintenance wife is a great thing, but low maintenance doesn’t mean no maintenance! A low maintenance wife is less likely to make noise when her needs aren’t being met, but that doesn’t mean she is okay with her needs being ignored. Don’t let her easygoing nature fool you into thinking she is okay with anything and everything.
Your wife is like your car – when you ignore maintenance you can expect a major breakdown at an extremely inconvenient time.