Acts of service … why?

Why should we “serve” our brides? I mean, aside from it tends to bless them, why should we?

To me it’s a specific case of the general – that we are to serve one another.

I have learned a great deal about serving from my friend Tom (his is one of pictures that rotates through the upper right corner). I came to understand that for Tom, serving is ministry, it is doing the work of the Kingdom, and obeying  the bidding of the King. Tom does not serve for credit, for him the reward is in the serving. I know I can count on Tom, if I need him he’s be here – from 2000 miles away he’s be here for me if I called. How can I not love a man like that? How could I ever hold anything against him, how could I not forgive him if he did manage to offend me?

Take all that and apply it to your relationship with your bride – if you serve, her, if you learn to serve her as Christ serves the Church, won’t that have a deep and lasting impact on her? Serve her as God intended (we are SERVANT leaders) and she will respond with love.

Hey Tom, thanks – I’m a better man and husband for knowing you!

5 Comments on “Acts of service … why?

  1. Great post, our marriage really blossomed after we started to apply serving and loving each other as Christ served and loved the church. Of course we fail miserably at times but then we have the opportunity to model Christ’s forgiveness.

  2. Servant:
    1. One who serves, or does services, voluntarily or on compulsion; a person who is employed by another for menial offices, or for other labor, and is subject to his command; a person who labors or exerts himself for the benefit of another, his master or employer; a subordinate helper.
    2. One who is privately employed to perform domestic services.
    3. One who is publicly employed to perform services, as for a government.
    4. One who expresses submission, recognizance, or debt to another: your obedient servant.

    I like words and thought it might be helpful to post these definitions of servant as a reminder of what we are supposed to be like, if we serve.

    Driving Miss Daisy is an excellent movie for illustrating how a servant acts, even as it illustrates how powerful serving another can become- that deep and lasting impact that turns cold hearts to warmth and makes friends of enemies.

    I find it an interesting twist of fate that this early role for Morgan Freeman, who plays the servant/chauffeur, Hoke Colburn, led to his better known portrayal of God in a recent series of movies.

    Be good! It’s what you were created to be.

  3. Amen.

    Paul B. says “Serve her as God intended (we are SERVANT leaders) and she will respond with love”.

    Maybe true, but more importantly (IMO), she will respond with respect and submission, which is the proper response. (Women tend to love even when mistreated or abused.)

    Christ forsook all to suffer, and ‘become’ sin for us; isn’t it a small thing for us to serve in small areas outside of ‘our’ normal job capacity?

  4. fline – I think respect and submission is a better way of saying it. You are right that women tend to love – the Bible commands men to love their wives, but never commands women to love their husbands – probably because women do that naturally.

  5. I try to always pay attention when any spiritual topic comes up more than once in a given week. This is the second time for me. I am reminded that our service (Eph. 5:25, everyone has referenced it.) is not conditional on our wife’s behavior. None of the other responders has said that it is, but I think we need to be reminded. We do this out of obedience to our Lord and as a testimony to his goodness and grace. We need to give him glory when our wives are moved by the grace Christ is demonstrating in us.

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