Your account is over-drawn, please hug at once!
One way to understand the love languages is to think of each as a different bank account. Each account has a minimum required balance for the account to function as intended. Fall below the minimum level, and problems arise. How much each account needs depends how important each love language is to your wife. She needs them all, but one of two are so necessary the rest do not matter if her primary accounts are not well funded.
Life deducts from her the accounts, with greater losses when she is stressed or overworked. This means the amount you need to put in an account to keep it well funded varies.
With all this in mind, how is your wife’s touch account? For most women this is an important account. Letting it become overdrawn is bad for her mental and physical health, as well as for the health of your marriage. Be sure to make regular deposits of hugging, kissing, and snuggling.
By the way – if you have been away for a while, or have neglected touching your wife as much as she needs, she needs the touch she has missed, plus some “interest” payments as well.