Give her a hand

...and he'll want sex...
...and he'll want sex...

My bride pulled some muscles in her back almost a week ago, and has been limited to what she can do sitting or lying down. So I’ve been doing all the meal preparation, clean up, dishes, laundry, shopping and so on. I do most all of these things to some degree all the time, but now I am seeing what it’s like to do it ALL. What’s more, I have it easy – we live in a small well organised home, and we have one son who does his share without being asked, and more than his share without complaint when asked. My “full time housewife” stint has been about as easy as it gets – and it’s still rather tiring.

If your bride is an “at home mom” she is working very, very hard, and needs your help. If your bride is working outside the home, PLEASE don’t expect her to do all the things needed to keep a home running as well.

3 Comments on “Give her a hand

  1. If we have a “his jobs / her jobs” mentality, then why not do as Christ did, humble ourselves, and take on jobs that are not our own, and sacrifice for our wives? Is that not obedience to our Lord anyway?
    Ephesians 5:25 says “Husbands love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.”
    Our sin was not His problem, our sin debt was not His debt. Yet He left his position, His authority, and His privelege (as LORD of all), and out of love, became man to die on our behalf.
    And we don’t want to help our wives with the dishes?!?

  2. Guys, not to brag, but my wife is a great cook. I mean really fantastic. She makes it a point to make dinners that she knows I will enjoy. We have no children yet, so it’s just the two of us, and in case you didn’t know, most cookbook selections feed small armies of people. She enjoys cooking, so often times the kitchen is rather overwhelming after dinner. I clean it. If she is showing love to me by making great food, I show her I love her back by cleaning the kitchen after dinner: wash dishes, wipe countertops, clean stove top, load dishwasher, the whole smash. If you want to shock your wife, here is how I do it. If I can do this, anyone can.
    After dinner, here’s what you do:
    1. Put any leftovers in appropriate storage containers. Tupperware in the fridge would usually be a safe guess, but when in doubt, ASK.
    2. Throw away anything that is garbage: empty spice shakers, onion peelings, carrot stems, and so on. Hint: if you have a garbage disposal in the sink, don’t throw peelings in it. It will probably clog up.
    2. Take all dirty dishes and silverware and rinse them off really good (the more thorough you are, the more you will impress her). Then put them in the dishwasher. This goes really fast with a little practice.
    3. Take a bottle of Windex and spray every surface used for food prep: the countertop, stovetop, etc. Wipe it all down with paper towels. Again, the more thorough, the better the spousal reaction.
    4. If necessary, sweep up the floor.
    The process should take you about as long as you took to eat your dinner. The potential ramifications are well worth the time. When you’re done, put your arms around your bride and thank her for the wonderful dinner. Say nothing about how messy the kitchen was, or how long it took to clean, or even THAT you cleaned it.
    I promise, this will work wonders! EA

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