Mothers and wives – all differnt
While certain fundamentally female hormonal and brain factors mean women have many similarities, they are also uniquely individual. What blesses one bores a second, and offends a third. What is a bad plan for 98% of women is a very good plan for half a percent of women. What you should “never do” with most women should be done with a few, and what you should “never forget” with most women is a waste of time for a small percentage.
Those of us who figure out the truth above, do better than those of us who don’t. Learn to take any advice (starting with everything I say here) as a starting place. Modify advice based on what you know about your bride, and what you get from that will be more likely to work. When in doubt, try something in a small way, see how it goes, adjust as you think wise, and try again. Ultimately it’s trial and error, and if you are too afraid of error you won’t ever figure anything out.
I’d also suggest not seeing her differences from the female norm as annoying, but rather as part of what makes her special. You were probably attracted to some of the very things that drive you nuts; learn how to enjoy her uniqueness and how to support and bless her in the ways that work best for her.