If you read these tips on-line, you will see a list of tags to the right. The larger a tag’s letters are, the more often I have tagged a tip as being about that. One of the largest tags is “gender-diffs”.
I’ve done a lot of study on this issue over the years, and have seen how gender differences play out in marriages – be that good, bad, or downright ugly. I get frustrated by a society that tries to silence gender differences, especially given the cold, hard science that now backs up a lot of what we all know is reality. It’s true that some of the stereotypes are garbage, and that there are almost always exceptions, but the truth is that male and female brains are very, very different, and that results in different ways of seeing things, thinking, acting, moving, feeling, and so on.
As support for my claim, I will quote from Sex on the Brain: 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life by Daniel G. Amen M.D.. On Pp 74 I find the following:
“Male-female communication styles are radically different, brain based, and hardwired. Many people think these differences are culturally defined, yet they appear very stable across almost all cultures studies, and have roots in the brain.”
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We expect our partners to be able to read our minds and think as we think. Unfortunately we are just not wired that way.
A few other facts from the book:
- The limbic system, the emotional bonding center of the brain, is larger in women.
- This makes bonding easier for women.
- Women tend to have more friends.
- Women go to church more and pray more.
- Because of the larger limbic size, women suffer more depression.
- The left side of the inferior parietal lobe is larger in men. This part of the brain estimates time, judges speed, and visualises objects in three dimensions. A number of differences in how men and women act, and how well they do certain things, comes from this difference.
- Due to brain differences, women are more likely to get lost, while men are less likely to realise they are lost when they are.
- For men language is in the left side of the brain only, women have language skills on both sides. This makes women superior communicators, and superior listeners. A number of male/female differences flow from these differences.
- Women are better at gauging the feelings of others and reading facial expressions – because the part of the brain that does these things is more developed in women.
- Men as a whole have shorter attention spans than women – but men are better able to focus intently on one thing.
- Due to brain differences, women have better peripheral vision, while men have better long-distance central vision, and better night vision.
- Women have much more sensitive skin, and better noses. Men taste salty and bitter better than women, while women taste sweet better; again, because of brain differences.
- At rest, a woman’s brain is busier than a man’s is.
- When asked to “think of nothing” men’s brains are most active in the physical activity parts of the brain, while women’s brains are more active in areas that deal with emotion and bonding.
- In men, exercise tends to wake the brain, while in women it tends to calm the brain.
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