LEAVE and cleave
Parents (both yours and her’s) can be great blessing or a great curse to your marriage. Part of what makes them one or the other is them – how they act, what they say, if and how much they respect the two of you as a couple. The other part of what makes them a plus or a minus is how the two of you as a couple deal with any “parent problems” , and how quick you are to take appropriate action.
How do you balance “honour your parents” with the reality your spouse should be more important to you than your parents? With whom do you “side” when it seems you are in the middle between two unreasonable people?
I don’t have any easy answers, but I will offer a few ideas over the next couple of
My “credentials” in this area? I speak as a man with a mother (now with the Lord) who could accurately be called “formidable”. My father seventeen months after Lori and I married, and we both felt the only right thing before the Lord was for us to stay near my mother to help her in any way needed. A dozen years later this was put to the test when my mom got cancer. She had recurring battles with cancer between clear times for several years. On two occasions we moved into her house to help her when she was not well enough to be alone (her home was far larger than ours was). When the cancer got to where there was no more treatment, we moved in to be 24 hour care while she died – a process that lasted nine months, with my mother being bed bound the entire time.
So, I’ve dealt with these issue first hand and up close an personal!