Modern widows and orphans
In many ways I think single mothers and their children are the widows and orphans of our day. Regardless of who was more wrong (husband or wife) and how you feel about divorce, the kids are innocent victims. What’s more, most problems single mothers face hurt their kids at least indirectly.
So, my Father’s Day suggestion to you is to find ways to help single moms and their children. How can you make life better and easier for these folks? Are there things that you, your family, or a group of men from your church can do to help out? What about all those things many women need a man to fix? If you do it for a single mother, either you fix something she could not afford to fix, or you save her the money she would pay to get it done.
Add your ideas as comments on-line – I’ll start with a couple:
One church I attended has a “single mom car fix clinic” every other month. Among other things they did oil changes, fluid top off’s, and brake work for free. Seasonally they did AC charges or radiator flush and refill. On jobs they could not do, they gave a good idea of what was needed, along with suggestions of places where the ladies would be treated fairly.
When I was doing landscape for a living a single mother in our church moved into a house in late winter. I watched her yard and started to cut it when it showed growth. I put it on my regular schedule and did the yard weekly – without telling the woman I was doing it. Several months later she came home at lunch and caught me – she later told my bride she did not have the money for yard care ($100 a month, for 9 months of the year then and there), and thought God was keeping the grass short for her. My take is God was keeping it short – using me to be his hands.
When I was a teen our church had a fix-up weekend for a single mother in our congregation. The youth group showed up, along with more than a dozen men. I don’t know what all was done inside (plumbing and electric among other things). Outside a tree was removed, many overgrown things were cut back, and the entire house was scraped and painted.