Dinner Out, or Sex?
This comes from a post recently made on the TMB message boards. I have modified and used the post here with the permission of the woman who wrote the original
We hadn’t made love in almost a week due to some stupid misunderstandings and scheduling. We really needed a date so we planned to go out. [My husband] asked me to find a restaurant. It looked like we’d have to pay through the nose for a nice ambiance, decent food and a degree of privacy to have a good conversation. I was getting discouraged because I knew even though we were going to spend all this money we still would come back to a house with kids (a friend staying over) and not much privacy for some intimacy which by now we were both badly needing.
Then I thought, wouldn’t it be so nice to just go check into a hotel for the night? But we couldn’t leave the kids all night. Then I had a brilliant idea! I believe it was the Lord. I thought why don’t we dispense with the expensive meal, and just check into a hotel for a few hours instead! When I asked him about it, he thought it was deliciously naughty and we should definitely do it. Using Hotwire.com we got a place for $60. We got into the room about 7:30pm, and stayed till about 10:30pm, then going out for dessert, and getting home around midnight. It was so wonderful. It gave us the privacy we needed for some truly amazing sex and then time to reconnect on an emotional level. It was so worth it and truly we didn’t spend any more than we would have on a nice dinner. I don’t think this will be the last time we do this and next time we can plan better and get there earlier.
Anyone surprised by a woman who choose hotel sex over dinner out? Look at the part I bolded, it’s critical. This was not just sex, it was intimacy, sexual and otherwise. This was reconnecting on many levels. This couple has learned great sex is part of a deeply intimate marriage – they have also learned that both great sex and an intimate marriage take thought, effort, and sometimes choices about how to spend time and money.