The Curse of Knowledge

Curse of knowledge is a cognitive bias that causes us to expect others to act on knowlege known to us but not the other person.

I am so guilty of this with my bride! I expect her to know what I know, and to process decisions based on what I know – even when I should realise she doesn’t know some of what I know. 

Another way I am guilty of something like this is to think about something and reject a number of options based on my thinking them through and finding each one to be less than acceptable. Then when I discuss the issue with my wife and she brings up something I’ve thought through and rejected, I try to prevent doing what I did – working it through. She say “We could ______” and I cut her off before she finishes her sentence. This makes her wonder why I even bother to discuss it with her, as it seems I’m not open to any of her ideas.

What about you – does what you know that your bride does not know, ever cause you to do things that are irrational, unloving, or less than wise?

One Comment on “The Curse of Knowledge

  1. One of the things I admire about you, Paul, is your honesty- the way you search out and then admit to your shortcomings with a desire to change. This seems to me to be something that all humans do who desire to be good.

    Yes, I do this too, exactly as you say; I cut her off, impatiently, when talking about an issue because I know something she doesn’t, or because I’ve already thought something through and rejected it.

    Jesus could ‘hear’ the thoughts of others, without them being spoken- talk about freaky ’cause He often addressed those unspoken thoughts with questions, out loud, usually to the consternation of those who’s thoughts came from a bad heart.

    Yet, he was never impatient with anyone while they were speaking.

    Thank you for bringing this to my attention, then. It is something I too will be working on.

    Be good!

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