The Curse of Knowledge
Curse of knowledge is a cognitive bias that causes us to expect others to act on knowlege known to us but not the other person.
I am so guilty of this with my bride! I expect her to know what I know, and to process decisions based on what I know – even when I should realise she doesn’t know some of what I know.
Another way I am guilty of something like this is to think about something and reject a number of options based on my thinking them through and finding each one to be less than acceptable. Then when I discuss the issue with my wife and she brings up something I’ve thought through and rejected, I try to prevent doing what I did – working it through. She say “We could ______” and I cut her off before she finishes her sentence. This makes her wonder why I even bother to discuss it with her, as it seems I’m not open to any of her ideas.
What about you – does what you know that your bride does not know, ever cause you to do things that are irrational, unloving, or less than wise?