All in the mind?
I read an interesting article (no longer free to non-subscribers) that said anything we believe can affect our bodies. This is the placebo effect, but much more powerful than we usually think of it, and it can do both good and harm. You can make someone sick, actually physically ill, by convincing them you’ve cursed them. There are even cases of people dying this way. You can also make someone feel better, even if they have a real physical illness, with a fake pill or a chant.
What does this have to do with your marriage? The things above are examples of how powerful our minds are, and how our thoughts can change us mentally, emotionally, and even physically. Add to that the fact that our words can put thoughts into other’s minds and it becomes clear to me that we can bless or curse our wife with our words. We can make her feel loved and special, or the exact opposite. We can make her feel able or unable, smart or stupid, and even well or sick.
Become aware of the power of your words, and the good or evil you can do. Listen to what you say, and watch how it impacts your wife. Also listen to what others say, and how their words may harm her. Be ready to both reject words that harm and repeatedly speak the opposite of those words.