Imagine making a pie chart of how you spend your waking time over a month. If time with your wife were pink, while time actually doing something with your wife (as opposed to just being in the same place) were red, would there be enough of those colours to even show up on a six-inch pie chart? How many of the 487 or so waking hours in the month would be red?
BTW, if more than half your pie chart (about 56 hours a week) is work or work commuting, maybe you work too much. Do you really need to work that much to provide a reasonable life for your family, or are you cheating them of time with you to buy things no one really needs more than they need a dad or husband?