Marriage bed vs. Guest bed

An e-mail from one of you lead me to this little rant –

Have you ever given your bedroom, and bed, to someone who was visiting your home? I know this is seen as a matter of hospitality – to give a guest the best room in the house. But what does putting someone else in your bed, your marriage bed, say? To me it’s more than just a symbolic issue – but that’s just me.

Note: Sorry about the double post for Thursday, no sure how I did that.

6 Comments on “Marriage bed vs. Guest bed

  1. hi- i feel strongly that our marriage bed is for us, and for our kids when they need a snuggle, as our kids are an extension of our marriage. i do not allow anyone else to sleep in our bed, though, that’s where i draw the line. nor would I want to sleep in another marriage’s bed. the energy around our bed is a reflection of how close we are feeling, and i don’t want it polluted with other energy. peace of christ to you all.

  2. maybe it’s just me also, but to me the marriage bed is just a symbol. i have no problem letting someone else sleep in my bed.


  3. I’m with you es1113, our marriage bed is wherever we lay our heads. Certainly some of our best nights and the days leading up to it have been in motels etc. Equally, when we are apart (I have worked 10 on 4 off shifts in construction camps) the expectation is both beds being slept in are kept pure. To me the ‘marriage bed’ is a state of mind and heart, not necessarily a place. Also worth noting that a large proportion of the world will sleep on only slightly better than bare ground tonight, I wonder how they feel about western shrines to the sanctity of marriage?

  4. In many parts of the world it would be quite rude to not give up your bed to a guest. I feel similar to the others that posted that the marriage bed is where we are, not our particular collection of molecules that make up “our” bed.

  5. @All – I seem to have given the idea that I am mostly talking about sex here, and that is not the case. I see our bedroom as a very special place, our private place. Yes, it’s symbolic, but I think sometimes symbolic can be very important.

  6. @love2practice – I realise what you say about other cultures is correct. But where do we draw the line? It was in the name of cultural hospitality that Lot offered his virgin daughters in place of the men (angels) who came to visit him. I am not suggesting that is the same as offering your marriage bed, just pointing out that cultural standards of hospitality can be in conflict with God’s ideas.

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