Love your enemies – and your bride

I sometimes watch couples treat each other worse than Jesus taught us to treat those who hate and attack us.  So, in honour of Valentines, a few suggestions loosely based on Matt 5:39-47.

But I tell you not to resist your upset wife. If she complains about you, leave yourself open for more.  If she demands you watch less football, watch less basketball also. If she compels you to go shopping at one store, go with her to two. Give to her when she asks you, and when she wants your help do not turn away. Love your wife and bless her if she yells at you. Do good to her when she is PMSing, and pray for her when she refuses you, that you may be a son of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the loving and on the unloving, and sends good things on the giving and on the selfish. For if you are nice to your wife only when she is nice to you, what reward have you? And if you hug her only when you want something, what do you do more than others?

Yeah, I know it’s a stretch – but is it really beyond what we are called to?

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5 Comments on “Love your enemies – and your bride

  1. First, to ‘quercus’: I’m sorry your V-day weekend was so disappointing. Perhaps you might try any other day to make special to show your love? You see, Valentine’s Day exists for one reason; to make money for florists & greeting card outfits. Give flowers any day; make cards by hand. And if your significant other doesn’t reciprocate, so what? “It’s better to give than to receive”. God bless you, & keep your shoulders squared & your chin up.

    In Christ,

  2. I’m not agreeing with this post. In my experience, if I watch less football and basketball, then my wife will demand I watch less baseball too. Then if I don’t she will become more angry than if I had done nothing. Anybody seen similar. I think we should do as God convicts not our wife. Whoose the leader here?

    I also think if my wife becomes the enemy we’re in bigger trouble here. These enemy passages aren’t about the wife. These are about people you don’t have to sleep next to. Otherwise they’d destroy before you were a week into the blessings.

    By the way, did Jesus really treat people like this all the time. Seems like he was rebuking the Pharisees, not blessing them most of the time. Besides the fact he avoided them 99% of time and hung out with a select group of people he actually liked. Best to keep stuff in context and not distort the Word of God. If wives are enemies, we’re doomed.

  3. I couldn’t agree more. The only object that should receive more of our love than our wife is Christ himself. This particular passage is instructing us on how to love our enemies; therefore, should we not love of brides more? I’d venture to say we should!

    God’s convictions often come through earthly vessels. Has your heart ever been stirred by the words of a preacher or pastor? I, for one, like to focus on v. 22 of Ephesians 5 where it tells my wife to submit to me, but, all too often, I forget that v. 21 says “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

    Thank you, friend, for this reminder.

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