Brief touch packs a punch
I found an interesting round up of the way brief touch can change how people think, feel and act. Makes me wonder about the effect of not touching, or more specifically of touching less; what does that communicate?
I have noticed, both in myself and in others, that we tend to withhold touch when we are upset or stressed. One such situation is when we’re in conflict with our spouse. Maybe it’s a way of showing our displeasure, maybe it’s punishment, maybe it’s just self-protection. Regardless of why we do it, the result is counter-productive to building a good strong marriage. Touch helps to calm us. Touch makes us feel trust and connects us. When we’re at odds, we need those things.
All of this reminds me of advice I once heard for couples – when you fight (have an argument) do it holding hands. Not an easy task – holding hands with someone you’re upset with. Holding hands goes against our desire to assert ourselves, to protect our own interests, to get our way. However, if your goal is to bless your wife and be a better husband, that all sounds good.