Why Women Cheat
Author Charles Orlando interviewed men and women to find out why they cheated sexually. Men overwhelmingly cheated for sexual reasons, while most women who cheated did so for emotional reasons. The women’s reasons for sex outside of their relationship included “Lack of emotional intimacy”, “Reaffirm her desirability” and “To re-experience feelings of romance”. All of those are things a husband could and should be taking care of for his wife.
I’m not suggesting that when a woman cheats it’s her husband’s fault; we’re all accountable for our actions. However, reducing the temptation to have an affair seems wise. Beyond that, understanding why women cheat helps us to understand some of what is really important to them. She’s not looking for mind-blowing sex; she doesn’t need you to last all night or know thirty different positions. What she needs is to feel loved and desired. And while she wants to feel desired sexually, she needs to connect with your mind and emotions far more than she needs to connect with your body.
[This post first appeared April 3, 2010.]