Gratitude is good for both of you
It’s a no brainier that thanking your bride makes her feel good about herself, and about you and your relationship. However, did you ever think thanking her might make you feel better about her and about your relationship? That is the conclusion of a recent study. According to Nathaniel Lambert, the study’s lead author, expressing gratitude to someone “…makes you see them in a more positive light and helps you to focus in on their good traits.”
I think it is fair to suggest that a similar result would come from negative comments. I would think being rude or negative would focus you on her bad traits, and make you feel even worse about her.