Personality and Theology
Donald Miller (Blue Like Jazz and other books) had an interesting blog post a few days ago – Does Your Personality Influence Your Theology? I’ve never thought of it that way, but I instantly saw that he was right – and it explains a few of my friends!
If this is valid, if our theology is in part a function of our personality, what does that mean? Firstly it would mean that God created us this way – to see the things of Him in a variety of ways. That would mean those variety of ways of seeing Him are not inherently wrong! I’m not talking about those folks who don’t accept clear truths of the Bible, but rather the variety of ways we colour what the Bible says because of our personalities.
Is it possible that we need to see Him and His word in a variety of ways because none of us has any hope of understanding Him on our own? Has He given us a variety of windows through which to view Him because no person can see more than one window’s worth? Are we all looking into the “house” of God from one of many windows? If that’s true, then what would happen if we shared what we each see? What if we got really radical and didn’t reject what others saw just because we didn’t see that? This would mean that together we could have a much better understanding of Him than we ever will by just hanging with those who have the same view we have. In fact, it would mean we can’t really know Him, and can’t really follow Him, without the input of the entire body of Christ.
On a marriage level, this might mean your wife’s view of God isn’t as skewed as you think!
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
How Would You React in a Crisis?: Over at Life Gems, Lori Lowe talks about a woman who refused to take “I want a divorce” as the end. A clear head and amazing self control saved her marriage.
Is There a Case for Settling in Marriage?: Live Gems also has an interesting write up of Lori Gottlieb’s book Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. When is settling compromise, and when is it wisdom?
Don’t Expect Your Spouse to Meet All Your Needs: In the past I might have disagreed with what Lori Lowe has to say about the need for a close friend beside your spouse, but now I think this is dead on. Do you have a friend you can open up to, and fully trust? If not, is that hurting your marriage?
Take back your week!: A great post on the A Private Affair Blog – check out this idea for making next week a great week for your bride.
It’s Reigning. It’s Pooring.: “God wants you and your husband having great sex. Satan, on the other hand, hates it when married couples have sex, let alone enjoy it.” Thus begins an outstanding post by Julie of Intimacy In Marriage. Sadly many of the brides who need to hear this are not going to revive it from their husband – forward it only after prayer. OTOH, if you are saying no to sex, PLEASE go read this. It might save your marriage, and it will bless your bride if you act on what is written here.
Who’s In Charge of Your Sex Life?: In a great follow up to the post listed above, Julie talks about the balance between your kids needs and the needs of your marriage bed.
Return to the Scene of the Crime!: Stu, aka The Marry Blogger has a fun idea for marriage building.
Small Steps: Stu also has a great post about starting small.
What’s Your Video for Today?: This Marry Blogger post has a very good idea that can help a couple communicate and avoid problems. Check it out.
The Power of Decisiveness: As I skimmed through this post on Gina Parris’ Blog, this jumped out at me: “ACCURATE analysis of over 25,000 men and women who had experienced failure, disclosed the fact that LACK OF DECISION was near the head of the list of the 30 major causes of FAILURE.” That sent me back to read the post more closely. Gina’s four point plan for being more decision is excellent, and I would strongly recommend putting it into action in your marraige.
A Question of Focus: Over at Journey to Surrender, Scott discusses why he targets only Christian marriages. I agree with what Scott says, and my focus is the same as his. That said, God’s principles are valid and work for anyone, even those who don’t follow Him. I get e-mail from time to time from men who are not following Jesus who still find what I say to be helpful. Of course I pray that in that they will see Him in a different way.