What do you want, what will you settle for?

We generally don’t get what we want so much as getting what we will settle for. Does settling sound to you like a bad thing? Sometimes it’s a bad thing, but sometimes it’s a good thing.

If you have a low opinion of yourself, you will tend to settle for far less than you should. If you don’t feel you “deserve” much, you will settle for just about anything.  This is when settling is bad – you are allowing a poor (and probably very inaccurate) self image to cause you to cheat yourself.

On the other hand, if you think very highly of yourself, or if you tend to be a perfectionist, you may expect too much of most people. If this is the case, then “settling” for something less than you may feel is “deserved” can be a good thing. Those with very high standards tend to be frustrated, unhappy, and often end up alone – UNLESS they learn to settle for something reasonable.

So, do you settle when you should not, or do you not settle when you should? How does this play out in your marriage?

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