I am stealing the tip below from my bride, because it’s very good and something most men need to hear.
I actually use fewer words than most gals and I’m a “bottom-liner.” That is not always a good thing. While my husband can appreciate to-the-point words, that kind of talk can feel abrupt or harsh. I’ve found that a soft introduction is a good thing. If I can get my husband’s attention and then gently explain my thoughts, he is more likely to understand and not get hurt or feel disrespected.
My encouragement is to take the time to consider your words so that they are thoughtful and well framed, rather than abrupt and short. “Hon, my hands are full. Would you hold the door for me?” is a lot kinder than, “Hey! Hold the door!”
There is always a way to be honest without being brutal. Arthur Dobrin